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by Various Authors

eBook Understanding Same-Sex Attraction download ISBN: 1932597697
Author: Various Authors
Publisher: Brigham Distributing (January 1, 2009)
Language: English
Pages: 501
ePub: 1370 kb
Fb2: 1519 kb
Rating: 4.6
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Category: Self-Help

In this groundbreaking work, the authors of Understanding Same-Sex Attraction reach beyond the hype to dispel many of the false notions abounding about same-sex attraction.

In this groundbreaking work, the authors of Understanding Same-Sex Attraction reach beyond the hype to dispel many of the false notions abounding about same-sex attraction.

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True science and true religion - never at odds with each other - come together again on this important subject. Understanding Same-Sex Attraction is a treasure chest of five hundred pages filled with 'gems of wisdom, pure and bright. will become a necessary addition to the libraries of individuals, families, Church leaders, mental health providers, and institutions of learning.

Understanding Same-Sex Attractions. If you are struggling with homosexuality, we trust these articles and resources will give you a deeper understanding and help move you toward healing and transformation. If you are a pastor, family member or friend of someone with same-sex attractions, we pray that these resources will give you deeper compassion and wisdom.

This book definitely served it's purpose. I now have a better understanding of people who struggle with same-gender attraction. Fred and Marilyn Matis did an excellent job explaining how they, as parents of a child who struggled with same-gender attraction, coped with all of the personal "baggage. I would do anything to meet these parents because they sound like they truly understand Christ-like love. I realize people have their own opinions, but after reading this book I feel I can be more understanding to people who struggle with same-gender attraction. I will never support gay marriage.

The sexual attraction of someone with . In his article Ordination and Same Sex Attraction (Sept

The sexual attraction of someone with . is toward persons of the same sex, and this tending toward could easily be described as an orientation. In his article Ordination and Same Sex Attraction (Sept. 30, 2002), Rev. Andrew Baker weaves a tortuous rationale for various putative attributes of gay men that in his mind contribute to prudent doubt as to the candidate’s suitability for ordination. He cites the possibility of substance abuse, sexual addiction and depression.

Same-sex attraction (or if you prefer, sexual orientation) is innate, and largely genetically determined. In the Old Testament histories, the books of the Kings, we find King Rehoboam criticized because he permitted sodomites in Judah, and King Asa praised because he drove them out. 2) Same-sex attraction is immutable. Any attempt to reverse it entails a profound denial of self, and may result in mental problems such as depression, suicide, and alcohol and drug abuse. The views of the New Testament writers were consistent with their Old Covenant forbearers.

Same-sex attraction refers to one of the three main aspects of. .Although Homosexuality can be associated with Same Sex Attraction. In my understanding, those that have same sex attraction are obviously attracted to the same sex. It can be an intense attraction.

Same-sex attraction refers to one of the three main aspects of homosexuality, attraction. There are articles on other terms that refer to different aspects. For example, Men who have sex with men is all about a term that references same-sex behavior. After all, being "Gay" is about being sexually and romantically involved with the same sex etc. But the two are Completely different. But it's usually on overdrive.

What is the truth about same-sex attraction? Can people really change? In this groundbreaking work, the authors of Understanding Same-Sex Attraction reach beyond the hype to dispel many of the false notions abounding about same-sex attraction.
Comments: (7)
Excellent and speedy delivery
To much religiosity.
Slowly writer
This book is damaging to LGBT church members and is one-sided. The authors ignore prevailing research and studies to support their subjective and projected LDS-based opinions. Many of the statements not only go against prevailing research in sexuality, but damaging and uses rhetoric similar to conversion therapy (which is looked down upon by the American Psychological Association). One example is the quote "A few children may need extra help to guide them into heterosexuality...". The text is not only non-affirmative of LGBT individuals, but condescending.
The Elephant in the Room
I believe Understanding Same-Sex Attraction will be a help and blessing to many.
As I read each of the reviewer's comments I am reminded of the story of the blind men and the elephant recorded in the Buddhist scripture - the Udana. Six men, blind from birth, were introduced to an elephant and asked to declare what it was. Each, in turn, explored the elephant by touching certain parts. Then they each declared what the object was based on their various experiences. Six men with six differing declarations. He who felt the end of the tail said that it was like a brush. He who felt the tusk said it was like a plough. He who felt the trunk said it was like a snake, and so on, depending on the version you read.
Regarding same-sex attraction, we are all blind men. We are all searching for understanding, for definition, for meaning about this deeply personal, tender and sensitive subject. We each have our own life experience which forms our beliefs. The book is a collection of stories and commentaries that shares those experiences. Like the blind men, we touch or interact with same-sex attraction each in different ways. Likewise, we are touched by same-sex attraction in different ways. The book is not meant to be an academic or research dissertation, or a religious treatise, even though some of these elements surface from time to time. On the whole, the book rises to the level of enlightenment and inspiration, and it does so to many audiences.
Even researchers can sometimes be like the well-meaning blind men who did their best to discern the elephant. Regarding same-sex attraction, scientists may view or touch upon one, or only a few aspects of the matter. Also like the blind men, their methods may be lacking or flawed. Thus, the conclusions derived may be inconclusive or incomplete, at best, or outright wrong, at worst. Sadly, some of the research cited in one of the reviewer's comments fall into this category.
There is still no consensus among researchers about the exact reasons for same-sex attraction. There is a clear acknowledgement of this in the book, especially in the stories of the contributors. For some, they experienced little or no conscious choice regarding their orientation, but they did exercise choice regarding what they choose to do about it. The various contributors to the book make that abundantly clear, as have the leaders of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who were cited in the reviews. There are no cookie-cutter stories in this book. Each contributor to the book offers his or her personal and/or professional perspective in a forthright and courageous manner. Each contributor's experience charts a unique course in pursuit of happiness and soulful peace.
As many of the contributors cite their personal journey through same-sex attraction, they offer their testimony of the difficulties, trials, and triumphs along the way. What I observed in the book was not, as one reviewer put it, that the writers believed that "homosexual orientation is not inborn and can be changed," but more that the nature of change is remarkably fluid and dynamic. As such, one reviewer's concern that the writers see the concept of "inborn and unchangeable as evil" is, at best, an over-simplification. Those who tell their story share a journey that is all about change.
Predispositions toward certain feelings and actions are in flux throughout their stories. The writers' stories show that changes made today may be erased tomorrow, only to be achieved again next week or next year. Changes in thoughts, feelings, and actions flow like a river - there is always movement - always change - sometimes large and sometimes small - sometimes negative and sometimes positive. Their narratives about these changes, provided in an introspective manner, including their heart-felt struggles and triumphs, are what give the book its appeal and its worth.
For those who want to know more about same-sex attraction the book is about hope; it is about change of all types, dimensions, durations, and directions. It is a collection of stories, observations, commentary, and beliefs that will leave the reader uplifted, thoughtful, challenged, and better for having read it.
For Latter-day Saints wanting a comprehensive perspective on the complex issue of homosexuality, this book is a necessary resource. The authors make a careful balance between psychological, scientific, and spiritual knowledge. For those personally dealing with same-sex attraction or for their family and friends, this book can help provide you with a solid foundation necessary for confronting the issue with faith. I have personally been helped by this book and am thankful for the authors' work.
Golden Lama
Drawing on articles from many experienced and credentialed authors proved a strength. Acknowledgment of the difficulties many experience in trying to change their orientation, as well as the difficulties of mixed orientation marriage, were also positives. The articles were well-researched, referenced, and supported. However, the book suffers from three major shortfalls.

First, it is out of line with current church statements about homosexuality. Throughout the book, opinions such as the following two are expressed:
1) "It is equally unlikely in both men and women that they are biologically determined to become involved in homosexuality or experience same-sex attraction."
2) "The false belief of inborn sexual orientation denies to repentant souls the opportunity to change and will ultimately lead to discouragement, disappointment, and despair."

Contrast these statements with the current church stance on such questions (Elder Oaks 2006):
"The Church does not have a position on the causes of any of these susceptibilities or inclinations, including those related to same-gender attraction. Those are scientific questions -- whether nature or nurture -- those are things the Church doesn't have a position on."

Second shortfall: On the important and relevant question of the biological factors that contribute to homosexuality, this 2009 book doesn't address the mountain of evidence that has accumulated in the preceding two decades which sheds light on the answer. Some examples of this rather glaring oversight: homosexual men have, on average, measurably and significantly different ratios of the second to fourth digit of their hands than their heterosexual counterparts. The anterior commissure of their brains is gender shifted away from the heterosexual male norm and toward the heterosexual female norm. Their limb:trunk ratio is similarly gender-shifted, as is their performance on visio-spatial tasks, third interstitial nucleus (a region of the brain thought to be directive of male-type sexual behavior) size and density, left:right brain hemisphere ratio, brain response to sex pheromones, cochlear sound production, thalamic response to female faces, verbal abilities, physical aggressiveness, expressiveness, and childhood gender conformity to name just a few. The sociological and behavior etiological models posited by the authors are gravely threatened by this evidence: to so blatantly avoid making merited qualifications and concessions speaks poorly of the authors' objectivity.

Third shortfall: The section on encouraging heterosexuality suggested that fathers "take your sensitive son on special "father-son" outings that you both enjoy such as a trip to a museum, a movie, a hike in the woods, rafting on a river, dinner at his favorite fast food joint, or soccer in the park. A sensitive son may be helped by the companionship of a pet, especially a male dog that can be a regular buddy and an affectionate friend." It has been long since the consensus scholar could give these types of suggestions much serious consideration.

The immense emphasis on transitioning out of homosexuality, reorientation techniques, encouraging heterosexuality, and therapy fails to acknowledge the substantial presence in the literature of the harms and futility associated with these endeavors.