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eBook What It Used to Be Like: A Portrait of My Marriage to Raymond Carver download ISBN: 0312332599
Author: Maryann Burk Carver
Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin (July 10, 2007)
Language: English
Pages: 368
ePub: 1786 kb
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Category: Biography
Subcategory: Arts and Literature

Maryann Burk Carver with her husband in August 1972

Maryann Burk Carver with her husband in August 1972.

Carver's high school sweetheart and first wife, Maryann Burk Carver, wrote a memoir of her years with Carver, What it Used to be Like: A Portrait of My Marriage to Raymond Carver (2006). His final (incomplete) collection of seven stories, titled Elephant in Britain (included in "Where I'm Calling From") was composed in the five years before his death. The nature of these stories, especially "Errand", have led to some speculation that Carver was preparing to write a novel

Maryann Burk Carver met Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen years old and he was seventeen.

Maryann Burk Carver met Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen years old and he was seventeen. In What It Used to Be Like, she recounts a tale of love at first sight in which two teenagers got to know each other by sharing a two-year long-distance correspondence that soon after found them married and with two small children. Raymond Carver and Maryann Burk met when they were about 16 and 19. They kept a relationship, a large part of it long distance, then got married when she was just out of high school (or, rather, a college prep. She got pregnant very quickly and then got pregnant again quickly after her first child.

The widow of writer Raymond Carver, Maryann Burk Carver wrote a 2006 reminiscence of her turbulent life with .

The widow of writer Raymond Carver, Maryann Burk Carver wrote a 2006 reminiscence of her turbulent life with the innovative poet and short-story writer. Married to Carver while still in high school, Maryann soon had two children, and a husband driven by his need to write.

Maryann Burk Carver met Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen years old and he was seventeen

Maryann Burk Carver met Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen years old and he was seventeen. The result is a memoir of a marriage, replete with an intimacy of detail that fully reveals the talents and failings of this larger-than-life man, his complicated relationships, and his profound loves and losses. What It Used to Be Like brings to light for the first time Raymond Carver's lost years and the "stories behind the stories" of this brilliant writer.

Maryann Burk Carver returned to Whatcom County, where she continues to reside. She has written a lucid, heartfelt memoir of a life, part marvelous, part tortured, with a literary legend. There is much in it too about the Burk family, including her beloved "Aunt May," Mary Katherine Burk (1898-1979), a Western alumna, longtime rural schoolteacher, farmer, and local newspaper correspondent whose papers can be found in the Mary K. Burk Collection housed in Special Collections. Mary K. Burk Collection. Marian Alexander, Head of Special Collections Emeritus.

Selected works of Raymond Carver": . .1950s: Spudnuts and roses - Love letters - To church we went - Young, married, with children - A town called paradise - Along the way at Chico state - 1960s: Eureka - Arcata - Iowa City - Sacramento - Palo Alto, Israel, Paris, Hollywood - 1970s: Writing, teaching, Drinking - That August - Maelstrom - "Will you please be quiet, please?" -. - Twisted fork in the road - Parting and apart - 1980s: Nobody knows - Always.

Maryann Burk Carver met Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen-years-old and he seventeen. Raymond Carver: A Writer's Life. In What It Used to be Like.

Meeting Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen years old and he seventeen, Maryann Burk Carver recounts a tale of love at first sight in which the two teenagers got to know each other by sharing a two year long-distance correspondence that soon after found them married and with.

Meeting Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen years old and he seventeen, Maryann Burk Carver recounts a tale of love at first sight in which the two teenagers got to know each other by sharing a two year long-distance correspondence that soon after found them married and with two small children. Over the next fifteen years, as Carver's fame grew, the family led a nomadic life, moving from school to school, teaching post to teaching post

Maryann Burk Carver met Raymond Carver in 1955, when she was fifteen-years-old and he seventeen. In What It Used to be Like, Maryann Burk Carver recounts a tale of love at first sight in which the two teenagers got to know each other by sharing a two year long-distance correspondence that soon after found them married and with two small children.Over the next twenty-five years, as Carver's fame grew, the family led a nomadic life, moving from school to school, teaching post to teaching post. Finally, in 1972, they settled in Cupertino, California where Raymond Carver gave his wife one of his sharpened pencils and bade her to write an account of their history. The result is a breathtaking memoir of a marriage replete with the intimacy of detail that fully reveals the illnesses and talents of this larger than life man, his complicated relationships, and his profound loves and losses.What It Used to Be Like brings to light, for the first time, Raymond Carver's lost years and stories and the "stories behind the stories" of this most brilliant writer.MARYANN BURK CARVERmarried Raymond Carver when she was sixteen and he was nineteen. They were married for twenty-five years, and had two children, Christi and Vance. Maryann Burk Carver is a teacher living on Lummi Island in Washington State.
Comments: (7)
TheJonnyTest
I am so glad Maryann had the talent, work ethic, and courage to write this book. It would have been so much easier to stew in the juices of the wronged woman. She rose above, and I found the resulting text riveting.

After Chuck Kinder's seminar at Stanford we retired to the old "Winery," where Ray proceeded to self-medicate. I ended up sitting in a corner of the bar with--Maryann. I remember thinking after that, of the trio I met that day--Chuck, Ray, and Maryann--it was 'the wife' who was most consistently centered, human, and positive. She showed nothing but enthusiasm about the writing life, which she encouraged me to join in. She said not one negative word about her out-of-control husband not twenty feet away.

Years later, after he was sober, I took a week-long workshop with Ray, one of the highlights of my life. The man's talent, generous patience with writers, and work cannot be overvalued. But, perhaps influenced by my love of naif art, my heart is pulled toward this book and Maryanne's selfless life.

Among her unending sacrifices, after Ray had gone through two drying-out places, out of money, she agreed to sell their house in Cupertino to plunk down thousands for another shot at his drying out, a stay that eventually led to the much-heralded 'second half' (actually, more like last eighth) of his life. I was especially taken with the the way Maryann could regularly shorten years of lived life into cogent paragraphs that I continue to re-read.
Onetarieva
Too little credit has been given to Maryann. Biographies, critiques, newspaper and magazine articles, and bookstore presentations have provided much information about husband Raymond almost to the point of a literary deification. Above all, I add this comment: If there were no Maryann Burk-Carver, there would be no Raymond Carver. This lady has sacrificed too much of her life for Raymond Clevie Carver.

Ronald Arturi
Уou ll never walk alone
It is impossible, having read this book, not to find Maryann Burk's imprint on nearly everything Ray Carver wrote. Every couple, every Jack or Iris, every 'I and she,' turn out to be Ray and Maryann Carver, and every incident is an incident lifted from their life together and, later, their lives apart, rendered hauntingly and brilliantly by Carver. His stories only grow richer for having been placed in this larger context.

I couldn't disagree more with the Publishers Weekly review. I found the book enthralling, honest, and at times heartbreaking. I found Maryann Burk an enchanting figure with a lyrical voice, a larger-than-life personality, and a very American story to tell. It is no surprise that Ray continued to write about her to the very end. My only regret is that her story was so violently abridged. I would happily have read more.
Laitchai
One of the most honest books I've ever read. Great in showing the slow descent of a borderline personality type artist. Must have been terribly painful for his ex-wife to pen this and really came through. So glad I downloaded this book and would highly recommend to anyone who has read Carver.
Fhois
Of course it's Maryann's view. Of course it's not Ray's writing. But it's an intimate view into the life of a committed writer who started at the bottom and rose to the stratosphere of respect in the world of literary short fiction. This is a well-written behind-the-scenes view of Ray Carver's herculean struggle and the effect it had on his family.

If I ever win the lottery, I'm going to set up a trust fund for struggling writers and their families. It's a sad reflection on our country's educational system that more resources aren't available for them.

I applaud Ray for his committment, determination and talent, and I salute Maryann for her heroism. Thanks, Maryann, for writing this.
Leceri
I enjoyed this account by Maryann Carver. I had expected a bitter recollection of the betrayals in her life with Raymond but I was pleased to find that she was loving and positive about the good things they shared. It was obvious that they had a very strong love for one another but I could understand that sobriety brought them both into another phase of their lives that could not be taken together. I have read most of his poetry and short stories. This account, as well as the biography by Carol Sklenicka, bring his work to life for me.
Daigami
Being keenly interested in Raymnond Carver's works and life, I found this "Portrait" most interesting. Maryann Carver creates a more complete image of Ray's earlier days, especially, and fills in many blanks about this most interesting writer. This book is probably more accessable to anyone who has followed Carver's writings over the years. And, for me, his early courting days were especially illuminating in bringing the full scope of a tough but productive writer's life into sharper focus.
The book was in excellent condition.